Well, lovely cousin, that one made me tear up a bit!
I understand not being able to forgive yourself for things and things you wish you could have done or said differently to someone you loved who’s not here anymore to say it to.
But I want to tell you something on Luke’s behalf, as a son, to a mother. His love for you will always be absolutely unconditional. He won’t have even seen or noticed some of the things you probably can’t forgive yourself for. Without knowing the facts, I expect most of the things you feel responsible for aren’t your responsibility. There’s no perfect parenting blueprint to follow. As a son, all I care about is that my parents cared and tried. I adore my mum for all she’s done for me and I will love her unconditionally for that. I’m sure there are things she may have wanted to do differently with hindsight - like all parents probably look back with the wisdom they never had the benefit of having when they were just learning how to be a parent - but I could not care less.
I am absolutely certain Luke would feel the same.
I realise these are just words and likely won’t stop you feeling the way you do. But do know that I truly mean what I say.
thank you so much and I want to reassure you that I have processed a lot of this through already and I'm okay but it was too long to share in one go.
Your mum is an absolute super star and should probably get a degree in Motherhood.
I know I am not a bad mum myself and got a lot of things right too. The other boys even show me that sometimes. This is just an aspect that has needed work and came up spontaneously. ;o)
I will share the rest over the next couple of weeks.
Well, lovely cousin, that one made me tear up a bit!
I understand not being able to forgive yourself for things and things you wish you could have done or said differently to someone you loved who’s not here anymore to say it to.
But I want to tell you something on Luke’s behalf, as a son, to a mother. His love for you will always be absolutely unconditional. He won’t have even seen or noticed some of the things you probably can’t forgive yourself for. Without knowing the facts, I expect most of the things you feel responsible for aren’t your responsibility. There’s no perfect parenting blueprint to follow. As a son, all I care about is that my parents cared and tried. I adore my mum for all she’s done for me and I will love her unconditionally for that. I’m sure there are things she may have wanted to do differently with hindsight - like all parents probably look back with the wisdom they never had the benefit of having when they were just learning how to be a parent - but I could not care less.
I am absolutely certain Luke would feel the same.
I realise these are just words and likely won’t stop you feeling the way you do. But do know that I truly mean what I say.
Take care
Byron
Dear Byron,
thank you so much and I want to reassure you that I have processed a lot of this through already and I'm okay but it was too long to share in one go.
Your mum is an absolute super star and should probably get a degree in Motherhood.
I know I am not a bad mum myself and got a lot of things right too. The other boys even show me that sometimes. This is just an aspect that has needed work and came up spontaneously. ;o)
I will share the rest over the next couple of weeks.
With Love
Karen
Or as your brother used to call me,
Little Big Cuz