I have no idea what my love languages are. Maybe a mixture of everything 😆
I’ve definitely been leaning more to experiences in the last 15-20 years. I’d much rather meet up with a friend than pass presents and not see them.
Your section on physical touch reminded me of father and son in the city of Newcastle upon Tyne several years ago, both were giving out hugs. I was really struggling mentally, physically and emotionally. I really needed a hug so I hugged them both!
I’ve had a few people pass me gifts recently. It’s been a real effort to open up to receiving them as I’ve been judging that they’ve “spent too much” or “shouldn’t have” if I know they are going through a tough time or don’t have a lot of money.
Me and my partner agreed not to buy gifts for Xmas and birthdays. We’re choosing to enjoy really quiet christmases. I’d much rather us do a monthly check in of our relationship and enjoy the experiences we’re choosing around the seasons than open presents.
I saw someone say that earning £100k didn’t make for a luxury lifestyle which I totally got what they were saying in that the money didn’t go as far with the cost of living crisis. But I’ve seen my way of life living in a static caravan without the worry of mortgage or rent as total luxury for 2 years now. I have running water and it gets hot. I don’t have central heating but I can heat my home. I can go into Lidl or Aldi and pretty much buy anything I want or need. I enjoy a lot of freedom. My health keeps improving. To me, this is luxury.
And when it comes to drying clothes without central heating, this is the bug bear! My washing machine is outside and it takes days to dry clothes in winter. It was the only downside but I’ve got used to it now.
my Love Languages are a mixture of three but I don't think it matters. I think the thing to hold here is that, however people love you (and remembering most won't know about Love Languages let alone yours), recognise that even if what they give you doesn't match your love language, it might be theirs and you can receive the gift as love anyway. And why shouldn't they love you?! Can you let that in? And love them back? 🥰
My husband and I don't ever buy each other gifts. We've been together twenty-eight years and worked out pretty early on that it wasn't important to either of us. The children don't buy us gifts either, barring my one son who sometimes sends me flowers for mother's day and my birthday (unless he's living abroad which he's done a lot). He says that living abroad helped him not to feel obliged to buy people things and now they don't ever expect it of him. Good strategy! 😂
I have read similar to luxury about research into happiness, that a millionnaire could be less happy than an indigenous person in Africa with no financial wealth for instance. And health is so much more important. I'm enjoying decluttering while we prepare to downsize next year and aim to be morgage free. I love love love the idea of a small place again. I did it before when I was a single parent and felt rich for having so much more time. 😃
I was thinking to myself, is health a luxury? Don't we all have a right to health? Perhaps it feels like a luxury when we haven't had full health for a while? But it does feel like wealth to me. Like a need I can definitely prioritise and indulge. 😍
It always blows my mind that collectively, we associate money with happiness - even though all the studies and research and data show us that isn’t the case. There’s a lot into lottery winners too that demonstrate no increase in happiness levels - many end up more miserable.
I feel like most people see health as a luxury - an unobtainable one. Or made up. But it’s the same with anything that’s connected to true health - we label it as a luxury, a nice to have. When really, like you say, it’s a birth right. (Similar with privilege - so much of it is birthright, the rest of it forms part of the abuse and trauma that has become a normal part of our privileges)
Look At bodywork/massage/any persons choice in deep healing treatment. We label it as a luxury where as brows, nails and lashes (as one example, alcohol/takeaways, etc, being others) have become the norm.
For me, Ive become the other way round. It would never have occurred to me that I could give up drinking or binge eating to spend it on something I really wanted, like a retreat.
I’ve had “Health is wealth” on my vision board for 6.5 years and I finally feel like I’ve made it manifest. In every true sense of the word. It’s become way more important and meaningful to me than material and financial success.
Lovely read as always.
I have no idea what my love languages are. Maybe a mixture of everything 😆
I’ve definitely been leaning more to experiences in the last 15-20 years. I’d much rather meet up with a friend than pass presents and not see them.
Your section on physical touch reminded me of father and son in the city of Newcastle upon Tyne several years ago, both were giving out hugs. I was really struggling mentally, physically and emotionally. I really needed a hug so I hugged them both!
I’ve had a few people pass me gifts recently. It’s been a real effort to open up to receiving them as I’ve been judging that they’ve “spent too much” or “shouldn’t have” if I know they are going through a tough time or don’t have a lot of money.
Me and my partner agreed not to buy gifts for Xmas and birthdays. We’re choosing to enjoy really quiet christmases. I’d much rather us do a monthly check in of our relationship and enjoy the experiences we’re choosing around the seasons than open presents.
I saw someone say that earning £100k didn’t make for a luxury lifestyle which I totally got what they were saying in that the money didn’t go as far with the cost of living crisis. But I’ve seen my way of life living in a static caravan without the worry of mortgage or rent as total luxury for 2 years now. I have running water and it gets hot. I don’t have central heating but I can heat my home. I can go into Lidl or Aldi and pretty much buy anything I want or need. I enjoy a lot of freedom. My health keeps improving. To me, this is luxury.
And when it comes to drying clothes without central heating, this is the bug bear! My washing machine is outside and it takes days to dry clothes in winter. It was the only downside but I’ve got used to it now.
Hi Amber, 🤗
my Love Languages are a mixture of three but I don't think it matters. I think the thing to hold here is that, however people love you (and remembering most won't know about Love Languages let alone yours), recognise that even if what they give you doesn't match your love language, it might be theirs and you can receive the gift as love anyway. And why shouldn't they love you?! Can you let that in? And love them back? 🥰
My husband and I don't ever buy each other gifts. We've been together twenty-eight years and worked out pretty early on that it wasn't important to either of us. The children don't buy us gifts either, barring my one son who sometimes sends me flowers for mother's day and my birthday (unless he's living abroad which he's done a lot). He says that living abroad helped him not to feel obliged to buy people things and now they don't ever expect it of him. Good strategy! 😂
I have read similar to luxury about research into happiness, that a millionnaire could be less happy than an indigenous person in Africa with no financial wealth for instance. And health is so much more important. I'm enjoying decluttering while we prepare to downsize next year and aim to be morgage free. I love love love the idea of a small place again. I did it before when I was a single parent and felt rich for having so much more time. 😃
I was thinking to myself, is health a luxury? Don't we all have a right to health? Perhaps it feels like a luxury when we haven't had full health for a while? But it does feel like wealth to me. Like a need I can definitely prioritise and indulge. 😍
It always blows my mind that collectively, we associate money with happiness - even though all the studies and research and data show us that isn’t the case. There’s a lot into lottery winners too that demonstrate no increase in happiness levels - many end up more miserable.
I feel like most people see health as a luxury - an unobtainable one. Or made up. But it’s the same with anything that’s connected to true health - we label it as a luxury, a nice to have. When really, like you say, it’s a birth right. (Similar with privilege - so much of it is birthright, the rest of it forms part of the abuse and trauma that has become a normal part of our privileges)
Look At bodywork/massage/any persons choice in deep healing treatment. We label it as a luxury where as brows, nails and lashes (as one example, alcohol/takeaways, etc, being others) have become the norm.
For me, Ive become the other way round. It would never have occurred to me that I could give up drinking or binge eating to spend it on something I really wanted, like a retreat.
I’ve had “Health is wealth” on my vision board for 6.5 years and I finally feel like I’ve made it manifest. In every true sense of the word. It’s become way more important and meaningful to me than material and financial success.