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Amber Horrox's avatar

I’ve always been able to give help, an endless supply of it. Until over-giving led to the sacrifice of my entire health. I’ve had to learn to allow others to help me. To support me. To hold me. Only to realise it was the greatest need I ever had.

Now I have to have an abundance of these spaces available to me. Accessible daily and at least a few times a week. It doesn’t stop the life changing, draw dropping, pull the carpet from beneath you type of change happening. But it does mean you are held whilst it happens. That there is space for you. Space for all of you. And that is the greatest gift we can give ourselves💝

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Karen Robinson's avatar

'The greatest need I ever had.' Sounds like a great headline. To allow others to help you. I think this is at the core of our identity as carers. We really have an aversion to being helped even when we're on our last legs. And we don't want to appear to be needy. And because we're not in the habit of asking for help when things are running relatively smoothly it's even more difficult to ask for it when we're in a crisis. I love that you describe allowing yourself to be supported now as a gift. 💖

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